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You may be expecting a blog review this week, and I hope you are not too disappointed that one isn’t appearing. The truth is, I feel quite burned out in regard to the reviews, and also think that several name blogs are currently in a state of flux. I hope that if I wait a few months, it will give new blogs a chance to catch up, and abandoned ones a chance to resume.
In the meantime, here I am starting yet another Category – this one, Your Questions Answered. I’ve noticed many interesting questions typed into Google, and although they got sent to my blog, alas, they received no answer here. So this is my chance to make good on their requests.
I thought I’d begin with a few of the many enquiries in regard to unisex names, since it is such a popular topic. I think it is worth mentioning that so far, nobody has Googled, “what is a male name I can steal for my daughter so there are no names left for parents of boys to use” or “how can I give my son a feminine name in order to scar him psychologically”, which is how some people seem to imagine the mental workings of the bestowers of unisex names.
The fact that so many people are so frequently searching suggests that far from using a unisex name in a frivolous way, a lot of thought is going into it. In turn, I’ve tried to put a lot of thought into answering them, steering a steady course between a laissez faire “anything goes” attitude, and a shrill denouncement of anyone daring to suggest that any name at all can be unisex.
In doing so, I’ve considered the origin, meaning, history, namesakes, and popularity of a name, both current and past. I’ve tended to go with the theory that surnames are unisex, unless they have a specifically gendered meaning, or are derived from specifically gendered personal names.
One thing I should make clear is that unlike some other countries, Australia has no naming laws in regard to gender. According to legislation, all names are unisex, and you are quite free to name your daughter Matthew or your son Chloe if you wish.
I’m presuming that when people ask if a name is male, female, or unisex, they are asking the community for their opinions on the subject. Of course, my opinions are just that – opinions. Feel free to leave your own opinions!
Note: Popularity of names based on Australian data.
I: BOYS TO GIRLS?
Henry as a girl’s name
At first glance, the idea of Henry as a girl’s name seems utterly potty. Henry is not only Top 100 for boys, but also a classic boy’s name which has charted for males for over a century, and been accepted as such for more than a thousand years. However, I do remember a Famous Five book where there was a female character named Henry – short for Henrietta.
My Verdict: A boy’s name, unless short for Henrietta
Luca as a girl’s name
Luca can be the Italian form of Luke, but also the Hungarian form of Lucia. In the latter case though, it is pronounced LOO-tsa, rather than LOO-ka. Luka seems to have a reasonable history of use as both a male and female name across a range of different cultures. I’d probably lean towards using Luka for a girl instead.
My Verdict: Both a boy and a girl name, but the two names are pronounced differently
Dylan as a girl’s name
Dylan was a Welsh god, so the name’s origins are masculine. Furthermore, Dylan has charted as a boy’s name since the 1960s, but never for girls. You could use the completely unrelated Irish surname Dillon though, which an English speaker would pronounce the same way anyway.
My Verdict: A boy’s name, sometimes used on girls
can Cadel be a girl’s name
It is a variant of Cadell, which for many centuries has been used and accepted as a male name. However, the explorer Francis Cadell has a few places in South Australia named after him – you could always claim Cadell as a place name. Place names based on surnames based on gendered personal names seem to be something of a grey area.
My Verdict: A boy’s name
can Myles be a girl name
In Greek legend, Myles was most definitely a man, and this name has a long history as a male name. However it’s now being used on girls – perhaps it seems like the “correct” form of Miley?
My Verdict: A boy’s name, currently being used on girls
II: GIRLS TO BOYS?
when can Hazel be a boy name?
I guess whenever you feel like using it as such. Hazel is a nature name and a surname, so seems quite unisex, and in fact does have some history as a male name. Having said that, it’s currently rising in popularity as a girl’s name, and has never charted for boys.
My Verdict: Technically unisex, but usage is almost entirely feminine
Can I call my boy Kaia
I think you can, but nobody seems to agree. Kaia seems unisex to me, but nearly everyone insists that it’s feminine. However, the name Kaya definitely is unisex, and worldwide seems to be used by more men than women. It’s used in so many different countries that it’s practically unicultural as well. I think I’d prefer to go with Kaya, although I don’t see why Kaia can’t be a variant of Kaya.
My Verdict: Your choice!
Noa as a boys name
Although Noa is a female name in Hebrew and Japanese, it’s also a Polynesian male name meaning “freedom”. There was a famous rugby league player from Fiji named Noa Nadruku, who played for Australian teams in the 1990s.
My Verdict: Both a boy and a girl name depending on origin
can Starr be a boy’s name?
Sure it can, it’s a surname as well as a place name. In fact, the surname seems to derive from a masculine first name which may mean “ox”, so if anything it’s more male than female. There’s a comic book hero called Starr the Slayer, a barbarian king. He seems pretty blokey.
My Verdict: Unisex, leaning towards male by history and meaning
is Kelly becoming popular as a boys name
Apparently not. It’s still charting as a girl’s name, although slowly declining, and has never charted as a boy’s name. I have seen some boys named Kelly though; it’s rare as a boy’s name, but not unheard of.
My Verdict: Unisex, but usage is almost entirely feminine
III: CONFUSED ON THE ISSUE
is Stacey more common as a boy or girl name
It isn’t common for either sex – currently it’s not on the charts at all. However, when it did chart, it was only as a female name.
My Verdict: Historically, much more common as a girl’s name
can a man’s name be Ashley or it that just a girls name
It can be used for both sexes. Famous Australian men named Ashley include tennis player Ashley Cooper, and swimmer Ashley Callus. It charts as both a male and female name, although as a female name it is still Top 100, and as a male name it is now in rare use. Historically it has been male for longer, but hit a higher peak of popularity as a female name.
My Verdict: Historically more common for boys, but currently more common for girls
Is Remy a boy name or a girl name
It’s based on the Latin name Remigius, so it’s usually a boy name. However, Kay from Nook of Names pointed out that it could just as easily be based on the female form Remigia. In its country of origin, France, Remy is occasionally used as a female name.
My Verdict: Most often a boy name, but can be used as a girl name
is Jade boy or girl
It’s a unisex name. Famous Australian men named Jade include soccer player Jade North and AFL player Jade Rawlings. Famous Australian women named Jade include swimmer Jade Edmistone and singer Jade McRae. Jade has charted for both sexes, but currently it’s Top 100 for girls, and in rare use for boys.
My Verdict: A name for both boys and girls, but much more common for girls
Is Darcy considered a boy or girl name
Ooh good question. Darcy charted as a unisex name from the 1900s to the 1950s, and then in the 1950s it became a male name only. Currently it generally seems to be rising as a female name and declining as a male name.
My Verdict: Originally unisex, and may be returning to that state
(Picture is of Australian androgynous model Andrej Pejic, who successfully models both male and female clothing)
More Eastertide thanks are due to the unisexily named Lou from Mer de Noms, for reblogging Boys Names of Australian Aboriginal Origin! (If you read that carefully, it’s a poem).
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Great post. Very interesting.
In the past year I have run across a couple of male Kelly’s and now that I have seen Kelly on a guy, I feel it works.
One name that I can’t believe was once a male name is Vivian. To me that name is so completely feminine. But I guess at one time it was a male name and I have run into one over a year ago. He was a Jr.
I MUCH prefer Kelly as a boy’s name.
Haha, my middle name is Vivian, and it is after a man (I seem to have TWO unisex names). I can see Vivian as masculine because of Vyvyan from “The Young Ones” TV show in the 1980s.
The originally-male name I can’t ever imagine on a man again is Florence.
Is Ebony unisex cos I was told it was
Yes it is – but it’s like Hazel, a unisex nature name that is almost entirely feminine by usage, and extremely rare for boys.
Thanks and I would hate to be a male Ebony as I get called Emily sometimes
If I was a man called Ebony, I think I would go with Ebon (said like the Biblical name Eben), or Bon (like Bon Scott).
Yeah maybe but I still find it funny. Some people would be like your names Emily were your parents planning to ruin your life.
What a delightful post, I think the only one I deviate on is Ashley, wherein the name still very much feels masculine to me – maybe it’s just because I know so many footballers with the name!
It seems masculine to me too – but that’s because of my age! If you are my age and called Ashley, you’re a man.
How many girls in the UK are called Ashley each year? Any sign of it rising for girls as it declines for boys?
Great post! Remy sounds feminine to me, and here in Aus I only know female Ashleys. I have met Ashtons of both genders.
I was wondering about the popularity/usability of the name Rowan for a girl in Australia? I’ve only known male Rowans in Aus but in the US female Rowans seem to be on the rise. Does spelling it ‘Rowen’ increase its usability as a girls name or is this just likely to cause confusion or make it appear trendy (I dislike made up spellings). Any thoughts appreciated!
Well, Rowan has charted steadily for boys in Australia since 1930, but never for girls. The boys’ name Rowan is an Anglicisation for a male Irish name that means “red-haired”. But Rowan is also for girls, straight from the plant name.
A female Rowan in Australia is a bit unusual, but it does seem usable due to international trends.
I’m not a fan of Rowen, as it looks like Rowena with the A left off. I know some spell it Rowanne, to make it look more “girly”, but really Rowan looks much nicer.
I’d just go with Rowan, and if anyone says anything, explain that it’s a name for both boys and girls. I think it’s one of those names that seems right down the line unisex.
Maybe Rowena??
Ooh good post!
I am generally not a fan of unisex names, especially for females, but I know they are really popular everywhere.
I have run into my fair share of feminine Luca’s. It doesn’t impress me, but what gets my pickle even more is that a lot of these moms get really insulted if you even hint that Luca is a masculine name. It ends in ‘a’ it must only be a girls name.
I actually know more male Kelly’s than female ones. I actually know a three year old boy named Kelly. I like it on a boy.
I am pretty sure that the use of the name Stacey as a masculine name started out as a nickname for Eustace while the feminine came from Anastasia. I could see it being used again if Eustace comes back.
Now I know more female Ashleys than male, but I do know a fair share of males with that name. They tend to either be French Canadian or from the southern US.
As you know, I adore Darcy on a boy, do I would love to see it more widely used!
I think the surname Stacey IS short for Eustace, although it was never common as a male name. I get the feeling that the notion Stacey is short for Anastasia was made up after the fact! 🙂
I would say that one of the downsides to having a unisex name is the association that having such a name is gender bending. Nameberry put that tag line on the guest blog I wrote for them being a guy named Chelsea and it’s in the title here. I think both reflect popular sentiment. But I think in part this is why people react so strongly to “unisex” names, becaue it is seen as not only blurring gender through the name, but actually switching it around – a boy name used on a girl somehow imparting boyish traits on that girl, and a girl name on that boy somehow imparting feminine traits on the boy. Neither of which are true of course.
I think the name Ashley depends on where you live. I believe in the UK Ashley is still seen much more as a masculine name.
The picture of the model I don’t see so much as androdygnous, but as more gender bending 🙂
Oh gee, I feel bad for using that headline now – it just went well with Google! I don’t think unisex names, like Kelly or Chelsea, are gender-bending, but using an established opposite-sex name is – such as Henry on a girl, or Lillian on a boy. You have actually “bent” the gender of that name in an unexpected way. (Some would say, the “wrong” way).
I hope that attitudes toward unisex names have changed: although I have to admit, on some level I probably WOULD expect a girl named Henry to not be particularly girly – because I would expect her parents to also raise her in a non-girly way. Not that the name made her that way, but that the name reflects the parents’ attitudes and values.
Yes Ashley has only been Top 100 for boys in the UK, however it is in a steady decline even there, which probably makes it vulnerable to future gender-swapping. We’ll have to ask Lou how many girls are named Ashley in the UK.
I think Andrej is called an androgynous model because he models both male and female clothing. But yeah, you could call that gender-bending! 🙂
Please don’t feel bad – I think the way you phrased it just made me realize (and gave me an opportunity to comment) that I have seen this said more than a few times in regards to unisex names, and of course I can’t count how many times I’ve heard “you have a girl’s name” blah blah blah 🙂
Your comment about not “expecting” a female Henry to act girly is about right too – at least as far as “expectations” go, although I think the reality would reflect her parents attitudes as you say. For instance, I never got the impression my mother wanted a girl and she didn’t undermine my masculinity, but I think others expectations or attitudes came through on an unconscious level, even if they were now aware of it – like I always seemed to be held to a higher standard in regards to swearing compared with other boys.
In 2010 in the UK Ashley ranked 178 for boys (307 births) compared with ranking 516 for girls (78 births).
The guys I’ve met with unisex names have usually been very manly and sometimes quite butch – I’m guessing that their parents raised them to be extremely comfortable with their masculinity, and maybe because of their name made more of an effort to stress this. Or maybe families who are already secure are more likely to choose a unisex name?
So I guess either way, I expect someone with a unisex name to be masculine rather than feminine.
(Do you know if Ashley for girls is rising in the UK?)